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Parenting from the Inside Out – How a Deeper Self Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive




Parenting From the inside out by Dan Segel

Parenting from the Inside Out is the 2014 edition of the classic parenting bestseller from Daniel Siegel, MD, a psychiatrist and leader in the trauma field, and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, MEd. It was developed as a result of a series of parenting workshops that combined Siegel’s research around brain development and Hartzell’s experience as a parent educator to support everyone, including people with childhood trauma histories to raise resilient children.

This book draws on new findings in neurobiology and attachment research to explore the ways in which our childhood experiences shape our reactions, feelings and the way we parent. It explains how our relationships affect the way the brain develops and supports parents to develop a deeper understanding of their own history, so they are better able to build strong loving and secure relationships with their own children. This includes how to communicate better and how to be more mindful and aware of our own reactions.

How many parents have found themselves thinking: ‘I can’t believe I just said to my child the very thing my parents used to say to me! Am I just destined to repeat the mistakes of my parents?’

“Dan Siegel and Mary Hartzell have quite deftly managed to translate highly complex neuroscientific and psychological matters into lay strategies for effective parenting. This is truly a must read for all parents and those aspiring to be parents.”
– Marilyn B. Benoit, M.D., President, American Academy of Child Adolescent Psychiatry

“This book uniquely pairs the clinical experience of a psychiatrist with the deep wisdom of a nursery school teacher. Together Siegel and Hartzell delicately peel back the many layers of parenting to reveal the pure nature of the relationship at its core.”
– Neal Halfon, M.D., Ph.D. Professor of Pediatrics, UCLA, and editor, Child Rearing in America.

Parenting can be challenging for any parent. If you experienced trauma in your childhood and are a parent, there is help and support available.

This month we introduce you to a website in the USA that many have found to be really helpful. It is a part of the ACEs * Connection website.

What does it mean to be an ACEs-, trauma-informed, and resilience-building parent/caregiver? And to be a parent with ACEs? What do parent education, training, and support services look like through this lens and how can they reach the largest number of parents/caregivers? This site offers a community which you can join, if you choose.

This website provides thoughts on parenting with ACEs, trauma sensitive support, stories, tools, and community. There are lots of articles on a range of topics which you might find helpful.

We know that with good support people can and do recover. We also know that when parents who have experienced childhood trauma have worked through their trauma, their children do better. This website can help support you if you are a parent who experienced trauma in childhood.


*ACEs Adverse Childhood Experiences Study which was a ground-breaking USA public health study, identified some of the impacts of experiencing trauma in childhood, or adverse childhood experiences.

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