We often have inner conversations with ourselves. This is called self-talk. All of us do it. It’s just that sometimes we’re not aware of it. That’s because it is so much a part of us. Even when we are not aware of our self-talk it can still affect us. It’s important to think about what we tell ourselves. That’s because it really affects the way we feel. And what we do.
Self-talk can be either negative or positive. People are often more likely to think negative thoughts about ourselves. And tell themselves negative things.
When we were abused or traumatised in childhood, we have often grown up believing that we are bad. And worthless. And can replay those negative messages over and over in our head. Our self-talk can reinforce our negative beliefs. Many survivors have a harsh ‘inner critic’.
Our inner critic can be powerful. And as self-destructive as the person/people who abused us. It can badly affect the way we feel about ourselves.
Self-talk affects our mental health. Negative self-talk can make us feel really bad a lot of the time. It can even make us have suicidal thoughts. Or self-harm. But we can change that. The first step to changing our self-talk is being aware that we are of it.